I listened to my father because I loved him and was taught to respect him. So for those reasons alone, I followed his advice.
“Happiness is out there waiting for you, work hard, take no prisoners and take what is yours!”
I believed him, and did exactly what he said.
I pushed – hard – and made it though school, and got a good job that affords me a comfortable lifestyle. I have constantly pushed and pushed. I have made many people extremely unhappy along the way, but I don’t care. They mean nothing to me and are responsible for their own happiness. I am striving to find my own.
My obsession caused waves in my marriage and my wife divorced me. Stating that I was unbearable and a tyrant.
I am now an old man, I have pushed everyone away in my quest. I have no friends to speak of, or with. People avoid me and say that I create a feeling of unhappiness. Tomorrow is my 80th birthday and I sit alone on a park bench and it is where I will be again tomorrow.
The next day, a small boy was walking hand in hand with his mother and saw me on the bench. He smiled and I smiled back, They sat down beside me, I smiled at him again, he said “ Mister, why are you smiling?”
I said “Today is my birthday, and for eighty years I’ve been chasing happiness, and it was useless. And then I decided to live without happiness and just enjoy life. That’s why I’m happy now.”
Come to think of it, I don’t remember my dad being very happy.
I respected my dad so I listened to his advice. Find happiness at any cost. So I tried.
Take no prisoners and spare no feelings. Find your own way to happiness. If the wife can’t handle it, have a good life.
Being alone and being lonely are two different things. However, we can all continue to learn.
Don’t chase happiness. Enjoy your life. Your life is your own and you shouldn’t live it by someone else’s rules.